Fun start to the day with a very responsive anal slut. Started off small, working him up to my fist till he mercied and had enough.
The day ended on a different note – with a new slut, a leather fetishist. Roleplay and lots of tease with the leather outfit, gloves and sensation play.
He didnt last as long as i hoped getting rather excited. I took pity on him and allowed the slut to cum …. this time 😉
Lots of new sluts
Lots of new sluts mixed in with regulars of late. Anal, discipline, sounds, vac bed, mummification etc. A few new toys too. Some pics below.
New thigh high boots as a belated birthday present from a very generous slut. I hope he enjoys me wearing them, as much as I shall 🙂 A few pics below taken yesterday.
Been a very busy couple of weeks, especially this one. A lot of fun new sluts to torment as well. More on that later.
What is Anal Stimulation?
Anal stimulation can involve anything that penetrates the anus stimulating the prostate. This includes fingers, toys or vibrators, strap on dildos, fisting including both, or long toys and arms for depth. Anal stimulation should never be forced. The goal is to stretch the muscles while relaxing the sphincter not to force penetration or tear the area.
What is Prostate Milking?
Prostate milking is often confused with prostate massage when it comes to anal stimulation. Prostate milking occurs when a certain area around the prostate is massaged. This causes release of seminal fluid without the accompanying pleasure experienced by orgasm. It tends to be used more in conjunction with chastity play to maintain sexual health of the slave without allowing them pleasure.
In my experience prostate milking is rarely what someone actually wants, unless they are into chastity play or denial of orgasm.
How Safe is Anal Stimulation?
Any skilled and trained Sydney Mistress should practice good sexual hygiene and safe techniques when engaging in anal play. This includes enemas for larger or deeper penetration, gloves and condoms on toys used.
Hygiene is important during anal play, not just for sexual health reasons or niceties. Also because the recipient will not relax if they are worried about mess. Also any mess can feel gritty and take away from an otherwise pleasurable experience.
Is Anal Stimulation Pleasurable?
For both males and females, anal play can be highly erotic. The more relaxed and turned on a person is, the better the experience and sensations. And that comes from the mind, as well as the anus.
When the penis is stimulated, the anus tightens. Any direct penile stimulation should occur once penetration is achieved, not during it. Some men find during anal play that their ‘pleasure centre” shifts and they cant maintain an erection. Other men have no issue. Some are intermittently erect or flaccid during play.
Everyone is different. If you do find maintaining an erection difficult, the professional Mistress should cease anal play leaving time to allow you to get erect and orgasm. If that is her aim 😉
Ejaculation aside, you can have multiple anal orgasms (which are completely different) as long as stimulation is continued. Orgasms from anal stimulation are a lot more intense and something to be experienced. Don’t be scared to try anal play. You can use your safe word if it isn’t for you or you are getting too sensitive.
Even if you have tried anal play with partners and haven’t been very turned on by the experience I would highly suggest trusting a professional dominatrix. A professional dominatrix will be much more experienced in this type of play and with a range of recipients. Her goal is to get into your head, make you horny and wanting to please her. Also she will give you a much more pleasurable experience with her skill and training. Stretching wide versus deep both offer different sensations. Preference for either or both is an individual thing.
Discipline caning for slut meant lots of giggles in session this evening, for me at least. I can say with certainty slut was not laughing, instead he was suitably nervous on arrival. Slut was due 70 cane strokes for behaviour correction. I decided to make things a little more interesting, with an incentive for him. The encounter was not off to a good start, with slut being late for our scheduled time.
Last caning he yelled through most of the paltry 12 strokes delivered. I decided that each stroke he took without yelling, would reduce the total due by an extra 2 strokes. Each stroke that caused him to yell, would only count as 1. This meant that at best he would only take 24 strokes of the cane, at worst all 70.
To make things more interesting for me, and more challenging for him I attached electro pads to his cock and balls. And set the Erostek to “microphone” setting placing it in line with his head under the bench top. As it turned out it was even better incentive than reduced strokes,. If he yelled not only did those strokes count as one each, but he would get zapped as he set off the electro-stim box.
I was slightly disappointed at how well he did during the discipline caning, only delivering 30 strokes all up with four different canes. Obviously I was being too kind to him in spite of my intentions. Next time that certainly wont be the case. He will also be penalised extra strokes for keeping me waiting, one for every minute he is late.
Nonetheless he was rewarded for his stoicism with some erotic tease afterwards, Some positive reinforcement encouraging more acceptable behaviour in future. I look forward to the next encounter..
Electrical bdsm play
There are two main implements used in electrical bdsm play. The violet wand is one and the tens unit is another. The Erostek is a more sophisticated electrical bdsm play implement than the tens unit. The violet wand and tens unit or Erostek deliver vastly different sensations to the recipient. Neither should be used with anyone who has a pacemaker, nor generally used above the waist.
I am yet to meet a submissive who enjoys the violet wand as its current is delivered more as a series of static electrical shocks. The tens unit or Erostek however most enjoy, the current being a rhythmic pulse sensation. There are various attachments one can use, from pads, to sounds, to dildos or anal plugs, cock rings and wartenburg wheels.
Electrical bdsm play can be either light and erotic or more intense depending both of the amount of electricity (battery or mains) and the intensity (volume level as it were) delivered. I use the Erostek as it is designed primarily for erotic use, whereas the tens unit is designed for physiotherapy. The tens has less pulse settings or range compared to an Erostek and the sensations are more crude.
Electrical bdsm play can seem daunting or scary at first but in the hands of a skilled Mistress should be safe and enjoyable no matter what intensity one enjoys. As you adjust to the sensation it can also be intensified through the session if desired. It can also be combined with other bdsm play. Broad flat attachments will be much less intense to the recipient than attachments such as the wartenburg which delivers the current from a small pointed area.
The past week I have seen a few sluts who have been surprised by their enjoyment of electrical bdsm play. One a relative novice, who had not experienced electrical bdsm play before. And was hesitant to try it, but bravely decided to trust me 😉 The other experienced, who I used more intense implements on namely the wartenburg wheel.
After adjusting to the sensations both were begging to have the electrical current turned up. My favourite is to combine electrical bdsm play with other CBT or discipline, hot wax, tease with the body wand vibrator. All of which work well going by various sluts’ reactions. It pays to trust the person you are seeing, which is any Mistress skilled in such play. You can always safeword if you find its not to your liking.
I had a lot of fun with both sluts this week, my novice slut by the end had me turn the Erostek almost three quarters of the way up 😉 Being open to various forms of play allows you to try different aspects of bdsm in a safe environment and find those that you enjoy. Also those you dont enjoy. Thats ok too, its part of the journey.
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Hopefully those in NSW have enjoyed their long weekend, i did !!! Below are some pics from the fun and games that have been keeping me too busy to update ! Not to mention the recent videos posted, a taste of what has gone on in session. Some of it rather funny.
Also over the weekend, one lucky slut was honoured with both Mistress Imperia and myself in a double session. It was great to catch up with not only an awesome Mistress but a long time friend, sadly with both our work schedules we dont get the chance to catch up as much these days.
Getting anyone to come out to parramatta is usually a challenge with varying schedules. I very much appreciated the effort she made, and we had a good giggle at slut’s expense for the afternoon. We finished off our abuse of slut by playing Hokie Pokie in his arse lol …. I’ve missed the comaraderie of working with other ladies I realised… or maybe just with her haha.
Enjoy the pics and hopefully I will see some of you soon 😉
Apologies for my lax presence of late, in between bookings various commitments and trying to get this website /galleries bedded down have been keeping me busy :/ Next time i get a geat idea? Slap me. Although I might slap back lol
If you have any feedback on site, if anything isnt working as it should by all means ether comment below or email me. Thanks !
Anyway, some pics below from some fun sessions with sluts. Been doing some videoing and one lucky slut even had a double with Master Damion and myself. Been a while since we have worked together, I had loads of fun. Also added a mirror attachment to the end of the bench for those of you who like to watch the action.
If you click the pics below, they should open up into the larger size in slideshow.
Phone gremlins seem to be plaguing me at the moment. I seem to be having some technology issues with receiving (or rather not receiving) sms from clients.
There are two clients whose sms I never received over the past few days, and another c;lient sms’d me yesterday but it only came through this evening unfortunately.
If I dont respond to an sms you have sent within a few hours (given I may be in session), can I please ask you to follow up with a phone call – those I seem to be getting, that I know of lol ! Hopefully that way I wont be seen to be ignoring people or not responding to booking requests.
I have restarted my phone and selected another mobile network but im unsure if its a reception issue or a Telstra one right now. Hopefully it fixes itself soon !
Thank you for understanding 🙂
How to handle the play drop you may feel after some kinky fun
‘I tend to play pretty hard,’ Rizzo Barajas from Martinez, California told Gay Star News. ‘Usually involving blood or very hard physical impact play.’
Rizzo identifies as a queer agender person of color.
He’s also a switch, which means he alternates between taking either the submissive or dominant role during Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) sessions.
But sometimes after a heavy session (also known as a scene) he’ll go from extreme pleasure to an intense drop in his mood.
‘It’s kind of like extreme temperature changes,’ he said. ‘Running from the pool to the hot tub and then back to the pool.’
He continued: ‘It’s jarring for me to go from having the hell beaten out of me to sitting and having a cup of water while trying to socialize.’
Marilyn Hollinger from Millbrae, California describes herself as a ‘sadist, mistress, femme top who likes to play very hard’. She’s been in the leather scene since 1986 and identifies as a lesbian.
She described a ‘drop’ as a bit like a skydive.
Marilyn said: ‘In a usual scene, I find I experience euphoria and it’s almost like an altered state – it can feel like a drug sometimes where you’re just in such a state of pleasure and extreme emotional or physical feelings.
‘So when you’re in this high state, at some point, you come down. You come down into this normal state but sometimes you dip and that’s called a drop,’ she said.
What is a ‘drop’?
Susan Wright from Phoenix, Arizona is the founder and spokesperson for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.
She said: ‘A drop is a feeling of depression or bodily decline.’ Susan said it’s a drop from the intense emotional, physical and mental feelings you had during the scene.
Dr Brad Sagarin is the Head of the Science of BDSM Research Team at Northern Illinois University.
Their research examines the positive physiological and psychological effects of consensual BDSM activities.
Sagarin explained: ‘Both bottoms and tops show increases in relationship closeness and reductions in psychological stress from before to after their scenes.’
Bottoms show increases in cortisol (a hormone associated with physiological stress) during scenes and tops show a ‘pleasurable altered state associated with optimal experiences.’
Dr Richard Sprott at the California State University wrote in the 2016 Journal of Positive Sexuality that ‘drops’ can happen to anyone.
They believe there are two different types of drop – immediate after-scene drop and drops that can happen days later.
Both types can leave people in a deep psychological process that leads to feeling ‘lost, ungrounded, disconnected, unsatisfied, depressed, irritable, vulnerable, raw, sad’.
The science behind a drop
Sprott and Randall theorize a ‘drop’ can be a process of grief and bereavement. Grief ‘refers to the emotional and cognitive reactions that a person has when one experiences a loss or separation.’
They also believe drops can be the result of a person losing their identity.
They wrote: ‘One’s self, or a central identity, is changing in some way. And that change involves a loss of the old self – the old identity.’
Susan said drops can range from being very mild to very intense, boiling down to endorphins and adrenaline.
She said: ‘After a scene, my body is trying to deal with flushing those chemicals out of your system and you really feel it.’
Susan also says a person experiencing a drop might have a little internalized shame.
She said: ‘For some people, the shame of being kinky and having done what you did may be the reason for a drop. We have so much societal disapproval and perhaps what they did conflicts with what their ideas of what a good person does.’
She added: ‘It’s a terrible thing for someone to feel bad about who they are – it’s why community is so important.’
Marilyn agreed: ‘Sometimes the bottom might think: “Oh well how can I be a good person if I like being hit?” or humiliated, or whatever it is we’re doing.
‘How can I be a good person and person of value? That all hits you in a drop,’ she said.
Another part of feeling a drop might be a physical reaction.
During an intense scene, you might be putting your body through strenuous positions.
If you strain your muscles too hard, you might get a build up of lactic acid. This, in turn, can lead to you feeling sore.
How to prevent a drop
The best way to prevent a drop is open and honest communication with any scene partner you might have.
An important way to do this is to negotiate with your partner beforehand about what you might need after the scene.
This could be as simple as a back rub, a cuddle or sharing a meal together.
Another great way to prevent a drop is to take things slow.
Susan explained: ‘One of the ways to prevent a drop is to have a more gradual build-up in the scene and then a more gradual drop off.
‘For example, if you wanted to do a caning scene, you start with the spanking, you warm up with a good 15 minutes of spanking and tapping lightly with the cane. Then you might administer a stroke of the cane.
‘Then you do your caning for however long you want and then you taper off. You stroke the rest of the body as a decline or you cuddle a lot afterwards,’ she said.
Rizzo agreed: ‘I like to do a cool down period where the impact is not as hard but is still present. It’s a slow change instead of a hard stop.’
Vigorous stretching beforehand and taking vitamin B is also a good way to deal with lactic acid build up.
Susan also said it helps not to do drugs or drink alcohol before or during a scene.
After care: Dealing with a drop
Every good BDSM-lover knows to have good after care when your scene is done.
After care is giving your body or mind what it needs in order to alleviate or stop a drop from happening.
Marilyn is a mistress and is currently in several master/slave relationships, where she’s the authority.
Even though she’s a top, she says she still experiences a drop in ‘virtually every level of play scene’ she does.
She explained she can be doing some very intense scene work, involving inflicting high levels of pain. But this is the complete opposite to how she is in the real world.
So a form of after care for her is scheduling a check-in with her partner after the scene is done.
She said: ‘Even though I’m the top, I need reassurance that I’m not evil. So that’s the reason I personally need a check in.’
Rizzo agreed and said he likes to follow up with subs he plays with in the days after, via text or phone calls. He always wants to make sure they’re OK physically and mentally, and if there is anything he can do for them.
He joked: ‘Remember – if you break it, you buy it. So don’t break it!’
Susan said a great way to deal with a drop is to have some chocolate.
She explained: ‘It helps mirror the oxytocin. So it can really help. Often, at parties, they can have little tables of sweets and chocolates.’
Marilyn said: ‘If I’m doing a scene on a Sunday for example, on Tuesday I’m going to time it so I’m not doing anything emotional because I know I’m going to be in a little bit of a funk.
‘That might be the time that I go do a massage,’ she said.